I consider myself fairly open minded. There are only a few things i believe people should ever be called to account for regarding sex and those are all non-consensual acts.
Something i cannot understand however, is swapping partners or swingers. I guess in my past, if i have constantly craved the attentions of another then i have taken that as a sign to exit the building and start again. I see it as me obviously not being into my partner anymore.
I can see the attraction of perhaps giving it a test run, but to become a committed swinger doesn’t add up to me. Why not fly solo and fuck whoever you want? Is it a case of wanting your cake and eating it too? From my personal experience that cake quickly ends up as a soggy biscuit.
Surely watching your partner sucking someone elses cock or rodgering someone elses missus on a regular basis must weaken your reasons for being together. If your sex life is dependant on third parties either real or through pornographic media, then you are stretching aren’t you? You are just not that into it.
Do you lose a level of intimacy that helps long term relationships to go the distance? Is there another level of intimacy that i am unaware of? When people have discussed it in the past, there is always one less enthusiastic partner too.
Each to their own certainly, but i am yet to be convinced.
If you can enlighten me on this one feel free to comment so i can figure out what is missing from my equation. I understand the attraction to doing something “naughty” or “forbidden” but i don’t understand why as an adult you need to keep doing it unless you are avoiding the truth about your relationship. Or maybe i’ve completely missed the boat here (and not the little man in the boat either).
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Hope you have a swinging weekend Logophiles!